Timing is a real bitch. A big one. If you were like me, I probably know what you’re thinking.
“But if he’s the right guy, nothing will get in the way.”
Well there is one thing, and that is sweet, sweet time.
The thing with time is that she does whatever the f*ck she wants. (Pardon my French… is that even really French? Idk. I took Spanish in High School.) Time doesn’t care about feelings or emotions or love. She just keeps moving forward, chuggin’ away.
“Let’s throw in a guy that’ll treat her like a princess, but also be unsure of what he wants in life just like everyone else.”
“Oh! And they’ll both be 20 years old and totally broke.” (Ah, the struggles of a college student.)
The whole right guy, wrong time thing really didn’t phase me. I thought that no matter what, if I loved someone enough that I could just be happy and figure everything out. The struggle with timing could be that they’re not ready to be tied down. They want to see the world before committing. He’s emotionally unavailable. Or he just hasn’t quite chosen what he wants to do.
He could move away. Then there’s college and the possibility of being separated. Basically life, just waiting to be lived.
And if you just met him a few years later in life, things just might’ve worked out.
But we can’t time travel. We can’t force them to live their life for us. We can’t see the future or just wait around until the timing is good. We really can’t do anything about this. All we can do, is accept that just some things can’t be. And try to move on. Does is hurt? Abso-freakin-lutely.
Maybe they’re meant to be. Just later in the future. You see it all the time, a couple breaks up only to get back together years later when they’re ready for each other. Could take months. Years. Maybe weeks.
Hell, Prince William and Kate Middleton even broke up at one point.
As depressing as breakups are, you might be able to find solace in the fact that it’s out of your hands, and you probably didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe now just isn’t the time, and the two of you will make a lot more sense later in life.
Maybe he’ll wake up and realize what he’s missing. Maybe someone else is just around the corner.
There is a bigger plan at work here, whether you see it or not. It’ll all come together someday, when the timing is just right. And unless the timing is right, it’ll still be one helluva ride.
Simple Alyssums 